As a romantic, and Sagittarius, I’m torn between two ideals: am I the kind that lives in solid black and white colors when it comes to relationships or do I prefer the gray area where hook-ups thrive and relationships have a fifty percent chance of happening? I love the freedom that this generation granted itself: the freedom to choose multiple partners the same way a food critic explores his ethnic cuisines. As a romantic, I’m disappointed by this fact. Consequently, the freedom to choose multiple partners ensures lack of commitment and thus I’m a “hopeless” romantic. Then you have people in the gray area who make promising claims:
You’ll quite possibly find your true love after you hook up.
Or you have males and females, particularly in their early 20’s, who want purely physical relationships because they don’t have enough time to give for the “real deal.” In this day and age where people operate in fast motion, a truly comfortable relationship is synonymous with wasting precious time to gather one’s bearings and live independently.
Timing is an important factor. That’s why media services like Netflix infiltrate our forms of entertainment: we want it now and we want it cheap.
It is important to note that I am fervently generalizing hook-up culture, yet I am not shaming anyone who prefers this route. For some, a relationship really is overwhelming and unnecessary. I approve of sex positivism, and do not judge women or men who contribute to the hook-up culture.
But as an old-fashioned “grandmother” compared to you hooligans, I have many questions. You would think that hook-up culture is the easiest thing in the world to understand if you have ever made out with someone and never contacted them again, but this culture is quite possibly pervasive in other ways:
-Could it be hook-up culture that contributes to rape culture? How do these terms intertwine? When does a hook-up become a dangerous activity?
-Psychologically, how do women manage hook-ups? How do emotions stay lassoed away in the closet?
-How precise is the time between the beginning of a hook-up relationship and the beginning of an inevitable emotional attachment?
Stay with me on this roller-coaster as I compile research in order to establish a firm opinion on this raging cultural norm. It’s going to be chock-full of emotional rants and tirades against men, at least that’s my satirical hypothesis.
There are documentaries, reports, articles, and much more done to study this phenomenon? Is it even a phenomenon? Or did society at one point realize that Eve doesn’t have to stick to Adam just because he’s available?
I'm Faina. 